Peculiarities of behavior in situations of psychological pressure. Psychological suppression of a person

01.07.2020

Everyone knows well how unpleasant it is to be under pressure from someone else. But how to get out of the usual rut? Not everyone knows about this.

However, before you learn about methods of protecting yourself from pressure from different people, you need to understand what types of psychological pressure exist.

1. Coercion-This is a direct, undisguised impact on another person. They resort to it only when there is some kind of power: physical qualities, power, money, information. A person who is forced to do something knows about the process that is taking place - as opposed to manipulation.

You can try to defend against him by hinting to the “attacker” that he is acting aggressively - some people do not like to admit this. However, if this does not bother a person, then it will be extremely difficult to resist this type of pressure.

2. Humiliation. In this situation, you can hear a lot of unpleasant things about yourself: you are stupid, scary, clumsy, untalented, disorganized... The danger of this type of pressure is that you get upset, lose control of the situation, and at this moment it is very convenient to put pressure on you: “ Can you at least do this?”

The fact is that, being in a sober mind, you would never agree to anything, but here personal defense mechanisms and the desire to prove your own importance come into play. By the way, this technique works solely due to self-doubt.

3. Stepping aside. This type of psychological pressure stands apart from all others, since its essence lies in attempts to starve you out. In other words, when they want to put pressure on you, and you want to clarify this, the person begins to slip into unrelated topics. Or asks why you always say bad things about him.

In this case, it is necessary to notice this very moment of departure every time and return to the starting point: “No, we’ll deal with me later, we’re talking about you now.” If you are persistent, then there is a chance that the aggressor will lag behind you with his pressure.

4. Suggestion- this is a type of psychological influence on a person, after which he begins to absorb information imposed on him from the outside. The person using this method must be an authority figure for his victim, otherwise the technique will not work. For this, games with voice, intonation and other semi-conscious moments are most often used.

5. Persuasion. The most rational type of psychological pressure. It appeals to reason and human logic. Speech that includes beliefs is usually as logical, consistent and demonstrative as possible. However, as soon as the victim’s consciousness catches the slightest inconsistency, the entire structure immediately collapses.

Unfortunately, a person who has come under any kind of psychological pressure does not always have the strength and capabilities to resist it. But in such a situation there is a way out - you must immediately turn to the practice of mudras, which will protect you from unpleasant influences from other people.

Mudra that will protect you from pressure from different people

This mudra creates a form of energy that first of all puts a barrier, stopping the flow of energy from you to the one who is putting pressure on you. After all, we can be subjugated against our will only by constantly taking away our energy.

And if you forcefully tolerate your subordinate position and are surprised that you cannot end this state of affairs, your energy is really being taken away, there is a constant outflow of strength from you to your enslaver, so you cannot begin to defend yourself and your interests. .

Mudra is necessary in all cases when you are forced, in the name of the interests of other people, to abandon your own plans, needs, and interests. Do not tolerate this state of affairs if it makes you suffer - after all, in a situation of psychological slavery, the health of soul and body is impossible.

Already during the practice of mudra, you will feel how the degree of your inner freedom increases, how your inner strength and psychological stability grow, and your self-esteem strengthens and increases, you gain a sense of self-worth.

And try not to miss new opportunities that will definitely appear in your life - for example, in the case of your financial dependence, you may have sources of your own income, in the case of a tyrant boss - the opportunity to change jobs.

Here are examples of situations when you need mudra:

You are being physically abused;

They humiliate you, insult you, offend you in order to subjugate you and force you to obey;

They demand from you unquestioning obedience and renunciation of your own will;

You are required to do work that you are not required to do and do not want to do;

You are forced to take actions that are unpleasant to you, are not consistent with your beliefs, or are simply not part of your plans;

They threaten you with punishment, some kind of repressive measures, if you refuse to carry out someone else’s will imposed on you;

You are required to abandon your usual way of life and accept another person’s way of life that is alien to you;

They are watching you, monitoring your every step, demanding an account of every action;

You depend on another person financially and therefore are afraid to show your own will and declare your own interests;

Officials exceed their authority and try to impose relationships on you that go beyond the relationship between boss and subordinate;

Someone obsessively gives you advice on various issues in your life that concern only you;

Someone is obsessively interested in your life, trying to find out details that concern only you, clearly crossing the boundaries of your “personal territory” without your permission.

When to perform mudra: in emergency cases - any time, anywhere, from 3 to 30 minutes, regardless of whether you are in front of your enslaver or not. If you perform the mudra correctly, then its very appearance will cool his ardor and force him to abandon his intention to influence and manipulate you in one way or another.

For everyday work on liberation from long-standing, protracted addiction in any form - 3 times a day, morning, afternoon and evening for 5-7 minutes, for any period from a week to six months.

For prevention or for liberation from mild forms of addiction, or simply unwanted attention to you and your life - 1 time a day, in the morning, 3-5 minutes, for any period from 3 days to 3 months.

Description of the implementation of mudra.

Place your right hand (left hand for left-handers) in front of your chest with your palm facing you, fingers parallel to the floor.

Clench this hand into a fist, but without bending the fingertips inside the palm, but resting them on the base of the palm.

Press the straightened thumb firmly against the side surface of the bent index finger.

Place your other hand in front of your chest, palm facing away from you, fingers pointing upward.

Spread the straightened fingers of this hand as wide as possible.

Press the back of your first hand, bent into a fist, tightly against the back of your second hand with your fingers straight and spread apart. The thumb of the first hand should be positioned perpendicular to the extended fingers of the second hand.

Bring your hands folded in this way as close to the base of your throat as possible.

There is no need to close your eyes, look into the distance with a defocused gaze, as if through the space in front of you.

Focus on the area at the base of your throat and imagine that a powerful source of energy is being formed there, spreading throughout your body, enveloping you like a cocoon and blocking the possibility of any external influences on you.

Form a firm intention to become a free, independent person, to follow your goals and interests in life and to get out of any kind of dependence.

Protective mudra against energy vampirism

Mudra arms us with protection from the negative influence of others, which can have the most unfavorable effect at a time when we are easily lost and succumb to the influence - often unconsciously - of our counterpart.

But if we look closely, our own involvement in the creation of suffering becomes abundantly clear. We ourselves condone this, and perhaps we are too little protected from negative influences. There is no need to blame anyone, it is better to remember in time and use this protective mudra.

Description of the implementation of mudra.@/p>

Fold your hands as shown in the figure, with your thumbs touching each other with their tips. Keep your hands at stomach level.

Through this mudra we form a castle and thanks to it we protect our stomach, the softest and most vulnerable part of the body, as well as our emotional state from the influence of others.

Breathing is even and calm.

Mentally draw a circle around yourself that no one can cross.

Previous articles in the series:

8.lefont>

10.

11.

12.

13.

14.

15.

16.

17.

18.

19. Force your body to work in the right mode- and you don’t have to torture yourself with diets in the fight against excess weight

20. Write down a recipe for youth and attractiveness that you might not yet know about.

Reviews.

“They really help! Mudras helped me lose weight! Really helped! Improve my overall health and give me the confidence I was missing. There is no mysticism or magic in mudras; it is only the work of our body and consciousness.”

“Mudras are the simplest, most reliable and harmless way not only to improve your health, but also to achieve good results in all areas of life: personal, family, social, whatever, that is, to harmonize your life as much as possible.

They bring success and luck to life by harmonizing the primary energy structures of a person. I know what I’m talking about because I have results.”

“They're helping! And not only for yourself, but also for your children. The child began to breathe noticeably easier. I give it to children for colds. Since I myself usually get sick along with them, the benefit is double.”

“I didn’t believe in miracles, but now I even know what they look like - wise. Miracles and nothing more! A couple of days ago I had a toothache, it was difficult to run to the pharmacy, I had to get dressed. So I decided to try my mother’s way to cure myself, or at least alleviate this endless stream of toothache.

I went online and there I came across photographs - wise ones. The tooth hurt, I was angry and was thinking about getting dressed and going to the pharmacy. I look at the photos, okay, I’ll try to twist these “mudras”. I did one, but almost twisted my fingers on the second. The pain grew more and more, and so in a fit of pain, my fingers twisted themselves, something like a “mudra”.

So I sat there for about fifteen minutes, afraid to move. Oddly enough, the pain began to subside! An hour later I completely forgot that my tooth hurt!”

VELVET: Marina Bondarenko

» The ability to say “No”

Time to say "No"
(About psychological pressure and manipulation)

"Whenever I say yes, I see in advance
how much “no” will it cost me?
Stanislav Jerzy Lec

Probably every person has at least once found himself in a situation where he had to say “no.” But he didn’t dare and ended up dragging behind him a trail of dubious responsibility, uninteresting and unimportant things to do, dissatisfaction with himself, or just a vague feeling of “something is wrong here.”

Life is full of such situations:

Beloved grandmother, persistently donating her priceless 30-year-old carpet, earned “with sweat and blood,” to your new wonderful apartment;
The boss, who again assigned an unpaid overtime task with an imperturbable look and again specifically to you;
A friend for whom you became the last hope of borrowing money/putting in a good word with someone/drinking because of his latest breakup - for the third time in a year and “I knew you wouldn’t let me down”;
The wife's aunt, confident that it would not be difficult at all to travel halfway across the city to feed her cat while she was relaxing at sea;
The seller from whom the last unnecessary item was purchased because he was attentive, kind (and perfectly mastered sales techniques);
And so on.

Why is it so difficult to refuse other people, even knowing full well that you won’t get anything useful out of this idea?

Agree or refuse is a double-edged sword. And if you still answer “no”, this also has different consequences. You can lose your “goodness” in the eyes of people. Get exposed to open aggression or secret condemnation. To really upset someone. It is impossible to shift responsibility for your decisions and life onto others (the positions “My parents chose the university for me, and now I work as an economist and am dissatisfied with life” or “I am so busy caring for my family that I don’t have enough time for myself” will no longer work).

But still, human resources, material and mental, are limited. And our task is to distribute and multiply them in the best way for development and happiness. It is important to remember that the more time and energy spent on other people's desires, problems and tricks, the less is left for your own interests and affairs. The more self-sacrifice occurs for the sake of loved ones and the responsibilities one takes on, the more dependent they become on “the one who dedicated his life to them,” and he becomes dependent on control over them. The less free will to say “yes” or “no” remains under the pressure of fear, shame, guilt, etc., the more aggression, tension and dissatisfaction with oneself accumulates inside. Undoubtedly, helping loved ones and being humane is important and good. But not to the detriment of yourself. The ability to say a conscious “no” in a number of situations is an important skill.

In addition, reliability and indulgence of others have a bad effect on self-esteem and, paradoxically, on relationships with these people, since getting used to manipulating you, they increasingly see a “thing” rather than a person, and begin to “ride” more and more often.

According to the concept of A. Maslow and E. Shostrom, each person in his own ratio contains a manipulative and actualized part of the personality. The manipulation part is aimed at using others, control, pressure for personal gain. Actualized is creative, spontaneous, perceives herself and others as individuals, and respects the needs, values and feelings of people. There is a variant of extreme manipulators, as well as people who have achieved good mental health - actualizers. But more often in some situations people can act as manipulators towards us, in others we can, or the manipulations are mutual and not always conscious, so condemnation is not the best option for the psyche. At the same time, self-respectful, open behavior (including the right to refuse) can inevitably actualize a communication partner who is inherently humane and not indifferent to you. And identify those who openly use you and your resources only as a means, no matter what beautiful motives sound from their lips.

“No, I don’t mind, I just don’t agree”
Maya Chetvertova

What is behind the fear of refusing your interlocutor?

There may be several reasons. It is important to understand what motivates you in a particular situation:

1. Healthy fear before physical/mental violence, humiliation, insults and other negative experiences, when a yielding strategy of behavior helps to soften the situation. When choosing between the option of agreeing to give the robber your wallet or suffering physically, the correct option, of course, is to take care of your life. When dealing with a boorish seller, a person in an inadequate state, an aggressive group, or being in a morally oppressed state, it is not at all necessary to defend your rights at any cost (although with rudeness and rudeness, confident reciprocal aggression is more likely to have an effect than goodwill). Common sense should determine the situation. There are internal resources to resist psychological pressure - defend yourself, refuse, stand up for yourself, if they are not there - agree externally, retreat, draw conclusions. And most importantly, don't judge yourself.

2. Fear of rejection. It seems to a person that if he does not agree with others, he will be treated poorly, will not be helped in difficult times, and will lose contacts. This is especially acute with significant people, since everyone wants to be accepted and loved by loved ones. Such fear “grows” from childhood, namely from that period when the child unconsciously decided that “they only love me as long as I am good.” And the most terrible myth for a person’s self-worth arose: “love must be earned.” That a human being is loved not for who he is, but for how convenient his behavior, his manifestations are to “loving” people, and otherwise (here fear arises) - “he will be punished and deprived of love.”

Of course, this is not true - no one has yet achieved sincere love either by good character, or by attractive appearance, or by a bank account. You are either loved or not. And rather, it depends on the ability to love within the “loving” person and his choice of you, rather than trying to please at any cost. But this is a beneficial myth both for a market economy, where a person is valuable to himself as a “good,” and for totalitarian regimes, where it is not even about the loss of approval, but about the loss of one’s head.

A small child under four years old very clearly and confidently says “no” to everything he doesn’t want right now, and it can be difficult for parents to cope. But if he is punished too harshly, his manifestations are suppressed, people endlessly fear for him and control him, he learns to treat himself and his desires in much the same way. Significant adults may not have conveyed in the educational process that “Now I’m angry with you, because you did something bad and will be punished, but I still love you,” or even worse - they themselves were raised on the myth “love must be earned.” Then the fear of being rejected can be very strong in life. We get used to agreeing, being good, or, as an alternative, constantly exploding with aggression, protest, refusal of connections, which does not always go away with adolescence or develops into cynicism. Manipulations in the spirit of “If you don’t behave properly, then... your mother will not love you / she will feel very bad / they will give you to another uncle” - plays on children’s feelings. They are harmful and lead to the fact that in adult life there is little awareness of the abnormality of the consumer attitude towards oneself and others.

If you find yourself with such a fear, it is important to realize: no matter how people react to disagreement with them, those who care about you will not abandon you. Those close to you will not stop loving, and with confident, repeated behavior, over time they will recognize the right to be like that too. Respect will come into the relationship. Only “false” friends will distance themselves. Relatives should be accepted as they are, without losing yourself for their good.

3. Fear of offending. A person can really be offended by a refusal, worry, or show a different reaction. You need to give him the right to do this and prepare in advance. You can express your refusal in a mild form. Those who have been successfully pressured using feelings of guilt, shame, and debt are more afraid of offending. If your partner gets his way by “catching” you emotionally, it’s worth figuring out whether the refusal will really entail serious consequences for the other party, perhaps important obligations have been taken (the refusal to pay child support is clearly not justified by the fact that “the ex-wife wants to manipulate me”), or They simply want to gain power over you in a situation. “If you are like this, I will leave you”, “I have put my whole life on you, but you are ungrateful”, “If you really love me, then...”, etc. - these are provocative phrases. There may also be provocative silence.

There is a fear of offending. But those who shout loudest about their wounded feelings usually care least about others; and about what the person accused of all “deadly sins” experiences in relation to loved ones. Take care of yourself - don't give in.

4. Lack of self-confidence. The reasons are closely related to the fear of being rejected and offended. Overly self-confident, arrogant behavior, by the way, is the “other side” of insecurity. Healthy confidence has reasonable limits. Insecure people may be afraid of encountering hostility, rudeness, or aggression if they say “no.” They rarely allow themselves to be assertive, to get angry, and if they do get angry, then to the point of rage. But they often get irritated in comfortable conditions, for example, at home, over little things (soap getting wet in a soap dish and hysterics about it - that’s it).

The aggressive charge does not go away, so if it is not shown to the real addressee, constructively and in a timely manner, it accumulates inside until it becomes impossible to control. Then he pours out on his relatives, rudeness in public places, and humiliation of the weak. Or it undermines health, turning into psychosomatic illnesses. There is such a concept - auto-aggression. This is aggression accumulated and directed against oneself. It manifests itself in a craving for self-destruction, masochism, alcoholism, depression... Taking a passive, infantile, trouble-free position can cause harm to health. Aggressive feelings are not initially bad; they activate the body to fight and protect itself. Having forbidden yourself anger as a “bad” thing, you begin to be afraid to refuse, because internally you remain defenseless and cannot stand up for yourself. Therefore, it can be useful to communicate your true feelings (of course, without losing your head and insults), since a person does not always understand what exactly offends another.

Life throws up many reasons for stress. If it is not possible to express such feelings directly (as with your boss), you can find a way out of tension in creativity and sports.

If you are still afraid to refuse, fearing rudeness, “moral bullying” and so on, then at least admitting to yourself a feeling of anger at this state of affairs and tearing a couple of sheets of paper to shreds is already a good step.

5. Stereotype about “decency rules”" When parents and close circle teach “good manners” and impeccable politeness with strangers, then these beliefs interfere with a firm “no” later. Self-esteem and confidence may be fine, but what works is the belief that being fail-safe is the right thing to do. You have the right to reconsider your beliefs on your own, to change the rules taken from childhood.

6. The need to be indispensable. There is a hidden benefit from the fact that you are considered very flexible; over time, they cannot do without you; they are accustomed to counting on you, no doubt. This can please your ego. Or reduce the fear of losing important contacts. Or give the opportunity to reproach “I do so much for you.” Feel your influence and even power over the destinies of others (“They can’t do without me,” “Everything rests on me”). Is it worth it? Everyone decides for themselves.

1. If you are not sure of your desire to do something, do not rush to agree. We are often rushed to answer, without allowing us to really understand our attitude and understand the question. You can say “I need to think”, “I can’t answer you right now.” Watch your interlocutor's reaction. If he is nervous or, on the contrary, extremely self-confident and tries in every possible way to persuade him to make a decision immediately (“Promotion for this wonderful tour is only today!”, “Either now or never!”) - be careful.

2. Before you say a firm “No,” you need to feel determined. Otherwise, the interlocutor will press harder. That is why it is advisable to gain time. But when you have already decided on the decision “Yes” or “No”, cut off doubts and act. After all, you can hesitate for a long time. To make it easier, write down on paper the pros and cons of refusal and consent, and then choose a more attractive option. If they are approximately equal, there is even less reason to worry about “did I do the right thing.”

3. When it is difficult to say “No” directly, you can resort to the phrases “Unfortunately, I am not able to help you,” “Maybe another time,” “Thank you for asking, but I can’t.” You can soften the refusal with a compliment (“You are charming today!”, “You are so competent”), ask your interlocutor about something pleasant (“How did you relax at sea?”). If he is friendly towards you, he will accept the refusal less painfully. It's good to end the conversation on a positive note.

4. To get away from the influence of a partner who is too oppressive, move away from him physically (go around the table, go to the window), use closed protective poses (crossed arms, legs) - they will reduce susceptibility; break his concentration on you with a sudden illogical question, exclamation, or switching his attention to the menu in a restaurant, a magazine, a window (your nails, after all). His attention will follow you, at least for a little while. You will have time to get ready. An old psychological trick is to imagine your interlocutor from a funny perspective: without clothes, with a thin voice, etc.

5. Be prepared for the fact that if you are manipulated, they will not easily give up on you. Don't allow yourself to be drawn into emotional experiences. They can put pressure on pity (“You can’t bring a glass of water to a poor mother in her old age!”, when we are talking about completely different issues), on shame (“A normal person wouldn’t do that,” “What will people think”), on guilt (“Do you remember, once upon a time...”), pain (“Your dead father wouldn’t have allowed this!”), fear (“You’ll dance with me!”), and so on. They like to use the words “always”, “never”, generalize, and refer to outside opinions. Listen without getting drawn into showdowns and evidence of “whose truth is truer,” because that’s what the manipulator needs. When his stream of words dries up, calmly repeat the refusal, briefly indicating the reason. Everything can start over 3-4 times, repeat “No” and maintain composure.

It will be difficult at first. Then it’s much easier, because it’s a matter of experience.

Of course, there are important issues where your consent is a serious help for a person. And just agreeing to do something good is very nice! This article is not at all a call for callousness and categoricalness! And for closing the way to unclean intentions, manipulation and pressure.

6. Caustic remarks and insults are simply a desire to get even “at least this way” and a sure sign of your victory. What remains for the manipulator? To prick at least with the fact that “It’s impossible to agree with you,” “What’s the point of arguing,” “Yes, they told me what kind of person you are, but I didn’t believe it.” Treat it accordingly.

7. Finally, if you have time, I recommend that you read “Ten Psychological Human Rights” by E. Shostrom. Information is available on the Internet and greatly facilitates the understanding of one’s own and others’ free will. After all, just like economic, political, social, there are also psychological rights. But it is not in everyone's interest that we use them. Good luck!

In our society, it is generally accepted that violence can only take a physical form. While psychological pressure on a person sometimes harms even more than bruises and abrasions - because it leaves wounds on the soul. Psychological pressure can take a variety of forms - from relatively light ones, such as persuasion, to severe ones - when a person is driven into a corner and pushed into self-destructive behavior (it is almost impossible to get out of such a state without the help of a specialist).

The source of such pressure can be anyone - a boss, an employee, a spouse, a neighbor, even a stranger. Moral pressure can be applied for some purpose - for example, to force a person to do something that the “aggressor” needs, or maybe without any particular reason, just to get rid of someone. It is possible to identify it in time, but it also happens that a person becomes aware of the pressure after he has broken down psychologically.

How to resist psychological pressure, what to do if you find yourself in such an unpleasant situation? This article is devoted to the main tactics.

Tip 1

Types of psychological influence

To suppress the will of another person and get what you want from him, techniques of varying degrees of “dirty” can be used:

Pressure on emotions and feelings– for example, feelings of shame, guilt, fear.
Intelligence can be connected- usually in this case, the counterpart selects a number of arguments in his favor in advance and bombards his interlocutor with them, without giving him the opportunity to object.
Pressure can be applied “to the forehead”– when a person is forced, blackmailed, intimidated.
Pressure is exerted by the “aggressor” not directly, but through circumstances, which the attacker is able to influence. For example, this could be a boss who worsens the working conditions of a subordinate, or the breadwinner in the family.
Contrary to popular belief, pressure can be exercised not only from a position of strength - say, when a person is physically strong, he has money and power. But also from a position of weakness. For example, when a person complains about his hard life and begs for help, usually backing up his begging with tears and repeating them many times.
Humiliation– also a common form of pressure. With it, a person is often publicly insulted, pointing out the characteristics of his personal qualities, intellectual abilities or appearance.

Stepping aside– perhaps the most insidious type of psychological pressure. It lies in the fact that the person being attacked feels pressure, but the “aggressor” immediately loosens his grip, as if he had not planned anything. This behavior does not allow you to clarify the relationship directly - because the sly one can make offended eyes and ask: “What did I do to you, why are you doing this to me?”, but at the same time it unsettles you.
Suggestion works great if pressing party - a person who is an authority for his counterpart, and the “victim” herself is a person who is easily influenced.
"Take it weakly"- a technique familiar to all of us since childhood.
Manipulation– is also a very common type of pressure, the difficulty of which is that it is carried out secretly, and a person may not understand for a long time that he is being used.

Tip 2

Realize

This is the most important step towards combating psychological pressure. Of course, if it is carried out directly and openly - for example, when a person is intimidated, it is easy to notice. But more sophisticated approaches, for example, manipulation, persuasion, sidestepping, can be more difficult to track.

We can be an instrument of someone else's will for months or even years without even knowing it, especially if we are talking about a loved one.

There can be many signs that we are being pressured. For example:

The interlocutor's constant desire to focus attention on a specific problem.
Suspiciously generous promises.
Unreasonable feelings of guilt.
The emergence of a sense of duty towards a person who has provided a certain service and now asks to respond in kind. Moreover, often no one even asked him for such a service.
Sometimes we may notice that we often do something that we ourselves don’t want, but someone else needs it, etc.

Tip 3

Cards on the table

If the pressure is carried out covertly, and a person realizes that he is being pressured, he can immediately openly tell the “aggressor” about it. In this case, many attackers will immediately retreat as soon as they realize that they have been exposed.

It is rare, but it also happens that a person stops the pressure as soon as the party he has harmed directly declares that he is behaving aggressively and suppressing someone weak.

There are people who don't like to admit it. Although most attackers, unfortunately, will not be bothered by this - they are well aware of what they are doing and often do not deny it.

Tip 4

Your own option

When things are called by their proper names, you can offer your own version of the development of further events and the preservation of relationships, if they make sense.
An option that will suit both parties.

Tip 5

Show teeth

Usually people who cannot fight back are subjected to psychological pressure. Thus, in order to reduce the risk of coming under pressure, you need to become stronger yourself. You can strengthen your character and ability to stand up for yourself in a variety of ways. For example, the following tools are effective:

Working with a psychologist and psychotherapist.
Sports – by making our body stronger, we strengthen our inner resource. For example, martial arts and team sports are good.
Communication with strong and confident people and the opportunity to follow their example of how to behave with others.

Feeling the restrained inner strength of a person, those around him are afraid to attack him. At the same time, strength should not be displayed, but others should feel it.

Figuratively speaking, there is no need to wave a saber in front of people, but if they see that its handle is sticking out from under the cloak, they will be more restrained in their actions and statements.
Tip 6

Ignore

If psychological influence is carried out by someone in order to see the reaction of another person and feed on his defenselessness and vulnerability, it is enough to begin to demonstrate complete indifference to the words of the offender, and he will calm down. This works, although not very often.

Tip 7

Have a heart to heart talk

It also happens that psychological pressure is exerted by a person who wants to take revenge. For example, today's victim once offended him.

In this case, if there is reason to believe that the pressure on your own psyche is carried out out of revenge, you will have to step over yourself and sort things out.
Tip 8

Get support

Sometimes psychological violence takes on truly terrible forms. For example, at work, in office life, sometimes a phenomenon called mobbing occurs - when one of the employees, for one reason or another, is subjected to mass bullying from colleagues.

In this case, you can try asking for help - for example, your boss, in-house psychologist or HR manager.

These people can help understand the reasons for the current situation and influence it.

Tip 9

Slam the door

This is often the best decision. If possible (for example, the person doing the pressure is not your own two-year-old), sometimes it is right to simply cut off communication.

Conclusion

To put psychological pressure on others, a variety of methods can be used. Be that as it may, it is important to remember that no one has the right to such actions, and in many countries this is legally recorded, in accordance with the letter of the law - for example, in the criminal codes (CC) of Ukraine and the Russian Federation. And from a moral and ethical point of view, we understand that no one is obliged to fulfill the will of another person. The main thing is to learn to recognize such attacks in your direction and respond to them with dignity, defending your personal boundaries.

...

Among the many different options for a negotiation scenario, the option of psychological suppression of the interlocutor is one of the most common. It is used especially often when the position of one side is obviously superior to the other, or as a continuation of insistence on one’s own, after a soft position of communication. In the first case, this is usually active pressure from the very beginning of the dialogue between people, excessive self-confidence, pre-prepared arguments in one’s favor, the use of the third voice mode - loud, clear, expressive speech, with an emphasis on the main points, with frequent interruption of the interlocutor, a grin or even a laugh. over his words. All this suppresses the interlocutor, makes him worry and nervous, doubt himself, feel discomfort and aggression on your part.

Very often, this type of negotiation gives a positive result, but not in the case when your interlocutor behaves similarly, and therefore it is fundamental for him not to give in to you, even to the detriment of his own interests. And also if your dialogue does not solve the problem immediately, then the person may change his mind and most likely will do just that, despite the initial concession. This can also be called the Chinese “yes”, which later turns out to be the word “no”. If we consider the second option of using this method of putting pressure on the interlocutor, then it is also very often used, especially in law enforcement agencies. You've probably watched films where the concept of an evil and a good policeman was often used. Two people play opposing roles, thereby forcing the person to agree to more lenient conditions. This really has a wonderful effect on the human psyche, and this technique can be used independently.

You can start with a soft position, and if they do not yield to you, switch to a hard one, with psychological suppression of the interlocutor, using the methods that I described above. Or, on the contrary, you can start with a hard position, suppress your interlocutor until a certain point, and then take a soft position, all with the same conditions beneficial to you. For your interlocutor, this will be an excellent alternative to resolve a tense situation, to remove the burden that you have placed on him. All these methods give positive results, especially with insecure people who are not used to losing. The effectiveness of psychological pressure on an interlocutor is, of course, quite high, but it is also worth remembering that people really don’t like being pressured, no matter what their character is.

If you are negotiating a deal or signing an agreement, after which your interlocutor will fade into the background, then using pressure will be appropriate. Any showdowns and verbal skirmishes can also be effectively resolved by putting pressure on the opponent. But if your goal is long-term cooperation with people on whom your well-being will depend, then I do not recommend using psychological pressure in this case. You can demonstrate high self-confidence, people like it, especially women who see a man, first of all, as a strong male.

There is no need to show aggression or disrespect for your interlocutor; this is bad for long-term cooperation. The confidence alone that you demonstrate can overwhelm your interlocutor, especially if you have a lot of arguments in your favor and, again, use the third voice mode, that is, a loud and clear voice, with an emphasis on the right things. Never doubt yourself, and in your speech, at least don’t show it, otherwise psychological pressure will be used against you. This can certainly be resisted, and I will definitely write about how to do it.

But the most important thing I want to tell you is that there is no one hundred percent guarantee for any communication tactic; they all have their pros and cons. Psychological pressure is, of course, very effective in most cases, but it also happens that it is harmful and does not lead to anything other than a negative attitude towards you and a severance of all ties with you. Therefore, try to look for the most acceptable communication option, appropriate in each specific situation, which is mainly aimed at obtaining a positive result for you.