How not to get bored of a man in a relationship. Give him the right compliments

Some girls simply have the talent of not bothering men, they know how to keep a man’s interest for a long time. Others get bored and become boring after just a couple of meetings.

What to do to never become boring for a man?

The first thing is to make sure that the man bothers you more than you bother him..

The first rule of communicating with men is that no matter how wonderful a girl is, no matter how beautiful and sexy, no matter how smart and deep she is, sooner or later there comes a time when he gets tired of the girl.

This is, in principle, obvious.

And then the next obvious rule is to interrupt communication, even if you want to communicate more.

Here you can focus both on yourself (the man has become boring) and on the signs of loss of interest in the man. For example, he began to get distracted, think about something, boredom appears on his face, etc.

To maintain a man’s interest for a long time, in such a situation, stop communicating and that’s it. I wrote about how to prevent such mistakes in the book "23 mistakes with men".

The second thing is not to communicate too much on the phone or WhatsApp between meetings in real life..

So you met a man and the meeting was wonderful. The man was romantic, smart, tried very hard to please, etc.

And now the question is, does it make sense to maintain intensive communication by phone or SMS messages between dates?

Many girls love and consider it simply necessary to communicate with their loved one on the phone a lot, almost until 3 am. Moreover, most often men value such correspondence much less compared to meetings in reality, and some do not need it at all and are annoying.

I don’t urge you to completely give up communicating by phone, WhatsApp or anything else. But you need to understand that such communication can significantly reduce a man’s interest in personal meetings.

To put it simply, why meet if everything has already been discussed over the phone.

In fact, not everything is so sad and you can communicate, but not too much. Focus more on the man's interest. If communication is monosyllabic, then don’t communicate.

Meetings in reality will be much better if there were not several hundred messages between them in communication with each other.

Third rule, try not to think too much about the man. Let him think better of you.

A man should think about you, not you about him, so that he always remains interested. At the very least, he should think a lot more about you than you think about him.

It seems to me that this is also a pretty obvious rule.

Conventionally, if you think about him all the time between meetings, constantly discuss a man with your friends, constantly call and correspond with him, then what interesting and new things will you bring to a meeting with a man?

What activities of yours can you actually do so that you can achieve at least minimal progress in them?

Most likely you won't be able to do anything.

Then the advice is almost obvious. On dates and meetings with a man, you need to pay all your attention to him (if he deserves it), and at the end of the meeting, forget as much as possible and go about your business.

Of course, his image will still be in your head. But at least force this process yourself. Don’t dream about a man, don’t go to his social network, don’t write him lengthy letters, etc.

I have given three above simple rules how to keep a man's interest. Of course, there can be much more advice. After all, the most main advice, (book size) is to become interesting girl. Interesting not only with theoretical knowledge, but also with skills that are valuable in life. But more on that another time.

Sincerely, Rashid Kirranov.

Instructions

It is important to surprise a man. Therefore, do not forget about unpredictability, surprise, mystery. Let your image be completely unsolved for your loved one. Since all women are naturally artistic, it will not be difficult for you to transform from a homely, cozy housewife into a femme fatale vamp or a seductive frivolous coquette - depending on the circumstances. Of course, it is important to maintain a sense of proportion here, otherwise not only your partner, but also you yourself will cease to understand who you really are.

Preserve and respect your individuality, originality, uniqueness. And let your loved one know that in your person he has acquired a priceless treasure, gem with the brightest facets that must be cherished, dust particles blown off, cherished and cared for.

But you yourself treat your dear friend with respect, sincerely appreciate him good qualities, do not skimp on praise and affection. Sometimes you can add zest and pepper in the form of whims, pouting lips and an offended look. But again, don’t overplay your hand, have time to stop in time.

Don't be clingy and annoying like a fly. If a man is thoughtful, preoccupied, sad, but is in no hurry to explain to you why he is in such a state, do not rush to ask questions. Suggest delicious dinner, sit next to her, hug her gently. The main thing is that he feels your genuine sympathy and concern.

No matter how much you would like to constantly be near your lover, delve into all his affairs, share everything that is on your soul - do not do this. You should have your own activities, your own personal territory, your own secrets. No need to turn into a bosom friend.

By the way, about girlfriends. Be quite restrained with them, don’t wash dirty linen in public, don’t talk about your intimate affairs - this is both ugly and fraught with side consequences. You need to talk about the secret – important and relevant – only with your man. Then a special, spiritual closeness will appear between you. And it will become very difficult to get tired of your loved one.

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The relationships of people in love in a couple or in a family undergo many tests. The most difficult of them is everyday life. Very important in in this case follow a few rules so that your relationship does not turn into a routine and does not collapse.

Instructions

Keep track of your appearance. Never appear in front of your loved one in a washed robe or tights. Modern fashion offers a wide range of beautiful home clothes. Buy several warm sets for yourself, skillfully combine them and surprise your partner. Beautifully styled hair and well-groomed skin always attract the attention of the opposite sex.

Always wear perfume. Numerous studies have shown that big role Smells play a role in relationships. They are capable of arousing sympathy for a person or, conversely, hostility. Natural aphrodisiac perfumes are becoming more and more popular every year. They relieve the state of discomfort, uncertainty, awaken sexual attraction.

Surprise your partner with actions and surprises. Don't be lazy to care for your loved one after several years life together. Prepare romantic dinner at home or on a boat during a night walk. Give gifts just like that, for no reason. This is a manifestation of your attention, care and love. Pleasant deeds and surprises always enliven everyday life and add romance to relationships.

1. Don't preach
We women love dramas and monologues very much. Yes, yes, we just love these endless conversations with our partner as a passive spectator! Sometimes it goes on for hours, the same argument repeated over and over again. We complain that he looked at another woman, was late, forgot to call, doesn’t know how to listen...

2. Don't limit him in space
If you complain that while you want to be with him 24 hours a day, he prefers to go to football on Sunday, watch a sports program and go out for drinks with friends...then you are the one creating the problem. The worst female mistake is wanting the world to revolve around us. complete liquidation the wants and needs of other people.

3. Don't try to change him.
If you have met a worthy man - someone who makes you feel happy and complete, do not try to change him. After all, we love a person for who he is, and not because he is perfect. If, in your opinion, your partner needs some changes, it will be better, no matter how painful it may be, to let him go in search of someone who will love him for who he is and do the same yourself.

4. Don't be monotonous
Take the initiative to break your routine every now and then and go on an adventure. Let it be a trip to some paradise, a visit to an exhibition, a walk in the park or new games in bed.

5. Don't push
Don't call him every 5 minutes. It is very difficult to maintain a relationship when one person depends on the other. Women tend to be more dependent than men on their partners, both economically and emotionally. Take a break in your life, because you are capable of achieving your own goals, from paying the electricity bill or buying a CD, to going out into the city to have fun or finding an interesting job.

6. Don't be jealous
Jealousy is a demonstration of self-doubt. It is not at all necessary to spy on your partner to be sure of his fidelity. Don't pick his pockets e-mail, mobile phone, it's not worth it. Also try not to control his views and gestures.

7. Don't impose on your friends
Don't pressure him to take part in ladies' events. If you want to go to a cafe with a friend, or visit a hairdresser or manicurist, don’t take him. Forbid yourself and your friends from sharing with him latest news about celebrities, best diets And physical exercise, fashion.

8. Don't force him to go shopping
Men are used to going out and purposefully buying what they are looking for. Don’t invite him to go shopping, every time you ask his opinion while shopping, he will give one answer: “It suits you” (and all in order to leave quickly).

9. Don't ask what's going on
Don't interrupt the silence if his mind is busy with something, leave your partner alone. Don’t bother with questions: “What are you thinking about?”, “What’s the matter?” etc. In most cases, nothing happens, or at least if you put so much pressure on your partner, he won’t tell you anything anyway.

10. Don't keep him waiting
Nothing bothers a man more than waiting three whole hours for his woman to choose the right outfit, makeup and perfume.

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Very wise advice! In principle, I adhere to them - they greatly help our relationship.

Every couple goes through a series of crises in their lives. Everyday life is fraught with many challenges. Everyday life dulls once very strong feelings... Minor disagreements destroy even very strong relationships...

1. Don't preach.

We women love dramas and monologues very much. Yes, yes, we just love these endless conversations with our partner as a passive spectator! Sometimes it goes on for hours, the same argument repeated over and over again. We complain that he looked at another woman, was late, forgot to call, doesn’t know how to listen...

2. Don't limit him in space.

If you complain that while you want to be with him 24 hours a day, he prefers to go to football on Sunday, watch a sports program and go out for drinks with friends...then you are the one creating the problem.

The worst mistake women make is wanting the world to revolve around us, completely eliminating the desires and needs of other people.

3. Don't try to change him.

If you have met a worthy man - someone who makes you feel happy and complete, do not try to change him. After all, we love a person for who he is, and not because he is perfect.

If, in your opinion, your partner needs some changes, it will be better, no matter how painful it may be, to let him go in search of someone who will love him for who he is and do the same yourself.

4. Don't be monotonous.

Take the initiative to break your routine every now and then and go on an adventure. Let it be a trip to some paradise, a visit to an exhibition, a walk in the park or new games in bed.

5. Don't push.

Don't call him every 5 minutes. It is very difficult to maintain a relationship when one person depends on the other. Women tend to be more dependent than men on their partners, both economically and emotionally.

Take a break in your life, because you are capable of achieving your own goals, from paying the electricity bill or buying a CD, to going out to the city to have fun or finding an interesting job.

6. Don't be jealous.

Jealousy is a demonstration of self-doubt. It is not at all necessary to spy on your partner to be sure of his fidelity. Don't go through his pockets, email, cell phone, it's not worth it. Also try not to control his views and gestures.

7. Don't impose on your friends.

Don't pressure him to take part in ladies' events. If you want to go to a cafe with a friend, visit a hairdresser or manicurist, don’t take him. Forbid yourself and your friends from sharing with him the latest news about celebrities, the best diets and exercises, and fashion.

8. Don't force him to go shopping.

Men are used to going out and purposefully buying what they are looking for. Don’t invite him to go shopping, every time you ask his opinion while shopping, he will give one answer: “It suits you” (and all in order to leave quickly).

9. Don't ask what's going on.

Don't interrupt the silence if his mind is busy with something, leave your partner alone. Don’t bother with questions: “What are you thinking about?”, “What’s the matter?” etc. In most cases, nothing happens, or at least if you put so much pressure on your partner, he still won’t tell you anything.

May 19, 2015

Every girl wants to be interesting to her boyfriend. But a girl’s annoyingness can kill any interest in her in a guy. How to communicate with a guy correctly so as not to bother him? We will answer this question.

Guys love girls who are a mystery to them. But over time, he doesn’t like the guy’s over-indulgence. She lowers it. The girl begins to bother the guy. Can a girl be interesting if she doesn’t value herself? Hardly. Therefore, a girl in a relationship needs to keep her distance. In addition, you should understand that guys are freedom-loving. Therefore, they need to be given freedom and not be imposed.

In order not to be intrusive, you need to find other entertainment for yourself. Where could you find an outlet for your emotions and unwind a little. Because precisely because of strong feelings You are obsessive in relationships. It’s no secret that you want to chat with your loved one once again. At the same time, over time, we do not notice that we are boring him. You need to understand that there are people who can communicate for days and days and for them this is normal. Well, there are also those that five minutes is enough for them.

Let's look at what you shouldn't do to avoid becoming obsessive:

1. Calls often. A guy often doesn’t like such actions. He begins to get nervous and may not pick up the phone over time. This means that your self-esteem in his eyes is low.

2. Takes up all his personal space. Guys really don’t like it when a girl starts posting photos of herself at his house. At the same time, these photos are found everywhere over time. There are even girls who put their photos on the computer desktop, in social networks or even manage to sneak them into the guy’s work. Remember, if a guy wants to post somewhere general photos, he will do it.

3. Asks to join his company. It happens that a guy with his male group wants to go drink beer. In this case, there is no need to ask. A man needs to communicate with friends and talk about masculine topics.

4. Give the right to choose. Many girls suppress even the most basic initiative in a guy. They begin to plan and make decisions without the guy's approval. In fact, this is unlikely to end well. A guy must feel his masculine nature. When he chooses, for example, where to go together, he begins to feel responsible for his decisions. He feels that the girl does not infringe on him.

In order to be interesting and not annoying to your loved one, you must first value yourself. And secondly, see if the guy is interested in your initiative. Then you will always be desired by your man.